Connecting after adoption can be hard. Children who come from a trauma background are dropped off on our doorsteps with more than a change of clothes and their favorite toy (although, most foster kids are lucky to still have those things with them!). They also come with the baggage given to them by their abusive situations that happened sometimes from the time they were conceived. They are scared, alone, and have no idea that you are willing and able to love and care for them.
These kids often "make" it hard to love them. They attack us physically and emotionally and we can end up feeling frustrated, depressed and drained of energy. If you are like me, you know intuitively that your adopted kids don't WANT to act this way. It's the survival instinct making them act this way but how do we help them get past that?
That is where we can help! We lived in your shoes and know now how to help these hurt kids heal. We helped our kids heal and we want to show you how to do it too--only we want you to skip to the head of the line and get it done much more efficiently! So here is what we can teach you...
The bottom line is, you are not alone. You are not wrong for feeling scared and disconnected the way you do. Connecting after adoption can be hard and we are here to help.
Many adopted children and those who have experienced trauma CAN recover and go on to live normal lives. It isn't hopeless. We helped our kids get better and you can too.
In our adoption interview back in 2006, we were told our children would likely be institutionalized by the age of 13. They had letters behind their names like ODD and PTSD and unofficially were considered "attachment challenged" (their therapist confided that to us after the adoption, though she didn't put it in their file).
What we learned just a few months into our adoption was that their brains could recover from the trauma they had experienced.
We got right to work, changing our parenting paradigm and using new techniques that frankly, seemed a little crazy at the time.
But you know what? They worked! Now our kids are in their 20's and are doing well. And we are ready to help YOU succeed like we did.
When our son was having 2 hour long night terrors that kept us up half the night trying to keep him from tumbling down the stairs, he was on a drug they typically give veterans for sleep after they come home from war.
It was obviously not working. We wanted him off that drug but we also wanted him to actually sleep!
We discovered a homeopathic combination medicine (no side effects) that allowed him to sleep more soundly than he ever had! That, combined with supplementation was how we got him and his sister off psychotropic drugs.
Years later I re-discovered homeopathy and it's full potential and am now a homeopathic practitioner. I wish I had known then what I know now!
Now, I introduce homeopathy as an option to help calm YOUR emotions as the parent and possibly your child's as well, giving you the mental space to focus on relationship and giving your child the emotional capacity to focus on healing.
In 2006, I discovered two kids that were super cute but according to the system, destined to fail. In the interview to adopt them, we were warned that they would likely be institutionalized by the time they were thirteen. This is how we met them and why we said yes. Read More
To empower parents whose children have experienced trauma through foster care or adoption to overcome the obstacles to attachment that so often leave families broken. We do this using a combination of proven parenting approaches that encourage connection-- and homeopathy. This combination allows parents to overcome chronic illness and trauma related behaviors in the family and feel better physically while experiencing healing in their family relationships.